Monday, March 29, 2010

Say Hello, Say Goodbye


Hi everyone I had all intentions of writing up this post sooner but something always came up and pushed it farther back on my list. I’ve pondered on how I would write this up and was not sure what I was going to say. Well the time has come albeit a little late to introduce you to two other members of my family who are my cats. If you are a Food Buzz friend of mine I know you have seen my BW who is my avatar and if you follow me on twitter you have seen my Remus as my avatar. Both are very special to my family. So you will understand why I said this post was somewhat late in the making. I really wish I could have introduced them at a better time.

This past weekend I had the unfortunate duty of having to put my oldest cat BW to sleep. She had been with me almost all her life which was 20 years. I found her as a stray and took her in and she has been part of my family ever since. I remember the first time I saw her. She came roaming around my house about a week before my daughters 1st birthday. I didn’t take much notice of her because I figured she belonged to someone in the neighborhood. My aunt who has worked with animals told me she could tell that she pregnant but she was a very young cat. A couple of months later she came around again and I could now tell she was close to giving birth. It was around November or December and here in Michigan it is very cold. So I took her in because it was obvious to me that she didn’t belong to anyone because she was roaming around in the state she was in.

Eventually she had her kitten but because of her being so young or just not having the proper instincts her kittens died. I knew that if I had taken her to the Humane Society they could only hold her for a few days and if no one claimed her then you know what happens. That is when she became a permanent part of my family. She grew up along side my daughter as my second child. She sat with us when we were sick or upset, she slept with us, she protected us and she loved us as we did her. I know most people who don’t have a pet as part of their family will never understand the impact of a loss like this and that’s ok. I just needed to write this not so much for telling everyone about my loss but I think more for helping me cope with the loss.


With that said I would like to introduce you to my second and now only kitty Remus Lupin. He will be 6 this year on April 11. When he was given to us we where told that he was a girl so he was originally named Samara. We soon realized that the name would not fit him so we changed it. He was supposed to be my daughter’s cat so as she was really into Harry Potter at the time she decided to name him Remus Lupin after the character that turns into a werewolf. I must say he does not live up to his namesake. He is sweet and playful, loving and very much spoiled and I have to take the blame for that.

When we first got him he was like a ball of fur. We took him with us almost everywhere. As I drove he would lay on my shoulder and sleep. When we went out walking my daughter hold him and cuddle him. As he got older he would ride in the car with us and lie in the back window and sleep, he loves riding in a car. He’s very playful and loves to lie on my legs when I sleep. I don’t mind because it keeps my legs warm. He’s sweet and spoiled and likes to follow me around. He’s still like a little baby sometimes and likes to cuddle up next to me when I am asleep. He’s my special boy.

As I said before I wish I had introduced them earlier but here they are now.


16 comments:

Mardi @eatlivetravelwrite said...

Oh Marisa, I am so sorry for you xoxo I can't even imagine how painful that was. I am glad you have Remus to keep you company now - he looks like my Cleo... {{{hugs}}}

allingoodfood42 said...

Hi Mardi, Thanks for the hugs and thoughts. Because she was well past the average life spay age of a cat I thought I had prepared myself for it but I'm finding it doesn't matter how much you think you are prepared you never are. Yes Remus and Cleo could be brother and sister. Take care and thanks.

Tangled Noodle said...

So sorry to read about BW and I can totally empathize: it's been several years and a different animal, but we lost our beloved bulldog, Douglas, who lived to a ripe old age for his breed. It was a difficult loss but we were helped along just a few months later by a rambunctious Boxer puppy named Cruise (my profile pic!)

Our pets so enrich our lives, even if it's from our memories.

hapabento said...

Hi Marisa, I'm so sorry for your loss 20 years is long time for a kitty. She must of loved you very much to live such a happy and long life with you.

allingoodfood42 said...

Hi Tracey, It helps to have others who understand what you're going though. I can tell that Cruise is well loved and I'm sure Douglas was too. Having Remus has helped us a lot. He misses her too but he's gtting better everyday. Thanks for your thoughts.

allingoodfood42 said...

Hi Debra, Yeah she was feisty until the end. She was very protective and possesive of us. We belonged to her as much as she belonged to us. Having Remus has been a big help. Thanks for your thoughs.

Angela said...

So sorry for your loss! Losing a beloved member of the family is always hard. When my childhood dog died, it helped me to think about all the happiness and love we had given each other over the years. Sending good thoughts to you and your family in this hard time.

allingoodfood42 said...

Hi Angela, My family and I thank you deeply for your good thoughts. At these times its good to have people around who understand. Thanks again.

pegasuslegend said...

oh how horrible this is to read, we lost our cat a few years back at 8. He had crystals in his kidneys, he was on diaylsis. Still died. I feel horrible all over again just reading this post, they are so much a part of the family and when they pass no matter what you just miss the heck out of them, so sorry to hear, wish there was something I could say to make that empitness go away....sorry, understand totally hugs to you!

Susan Yuen said...

Oh Marisa, I am so sorry to hear about your BW. It's so difficult to lose such a wonderful and beloved member of your family. Thank you for sharing your wonderful stories about your cats.

allingoodfood42 said...

Oh Claudia I am so sad to hear about your cat. 8 is way too young to go. BW lived a very long life and I could tell she was ready to go. I think she didn't want us to suffer as much as we didn't want her to. We still have Remus so that helps. Thanks for the thoughts and the hugs.

allingoodfood42 said...

Thanks Susan, I know you can understand having Macky. I knew this day was going to come but it doesn't make it easy but feeling the thoughts that have come from all of you has made my heart warm. Having Remus is so helpful he is such a sweety and a mamas boy. Thanks for your thoughts.

Trix said...

Oh I am SO sorry. I've lost 3 and it never gets easier, they are like a part of your family and a piece of your heart.

allingoodfood42 said...

Hi Trix, You are so right. I'm still working through things now. Luckly I still have Remus although he is going through a strange mourning period too. His behavior has gotten very erratic but I just have to keep showing him a lot of attention and love. I know he will get back to normal in time as will I. Thanks for your concern.

bentobird said...

Dear Marisa,
So sorry to read of your loss, and I know how deeply it hurts to lose a beloved, irreplaceable pet--they become part of your family and indeed your soul. I'm still mourning my sweet kitty who passed away quite suddenly last summer after nine years with us. How lucky we are to be able to share our lives with these beautiful beings. I think they shine something precious and magical into our lives...take good care.

allingoodfood42 said...

Hi Jenn, It is so comforting to have people around you who understand the pain that you feel when something like this happens. I'm very sorry to hear about you cat they are in deed part of our hearts and souls. I think about her everyday and I'm glad I have my other cat who is helping me get through this time. He is getting all the love from my daughter and me now. Thanks for the thoughts you are such a sweet person.